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How to Instantly Feel Better When You’re Worried or Anxious

It’s easy to let stuff bother you to the point where you find yourself slipping into a negative emotional state … and sometimes staying there.  As someone who coaches people around important issues in their lives and businesses, I can’t afford to be in anything but a positive mental and emotional state when I talk with folks.

But, phew!  Some days, things that aren’t going so well in my life can keep me awake at night and start me out on the wrong foot in the morning.  Maybe I was sick or dealing with allergic reactions to my supposedly hypo-allergenic puppy … or maybe there’s an important relationship that’s gone south and I’m bothered … or there are trends I see in the world that worry me.  I have to get past all that and focus on the possible … the uplifting … the inspirational … the positive.

The other day, something dropped into my email inbox first thing in the morning that instantly got me to the place I needed to be, and not just for that day, but for every day since.  It came from Abraham-Hicks, whom many of you I’m sure are familiar with, and if you’re not you should check out their website.

“If you knew everything was really all right, and that it always has a happy ending, then you would not feel trepidacious about your future. Everything is really so very all right! If you could believe and trust that, then, immediately everything would automatically and instantly become all right.”

I read that and I instantly felt better.  And I’ve repeatedly used this throughout my week.

I have something of a mantra I repeat to myself that echoes this same theme.

“Things always work out for me.”

I don’t say it because I hope it’s true.  I say it because I believe it.

And I trust that, in believing it, that it actually creates it as true.

Now, I’m sure some of you might roll your eyes at the assertion that everything is “really so very all right.”

And who could argue with you on the facts … the “reality?”  There are problems everywhere, many of them seemingly insoluble.  What do you mean everything’s all right?

I get it, and here’s the thing as I see it.

It’s not about whether there are problems galore or too much misery and heartache in the world … and in each person’s individual life.

It’s about whether or not there is a constantly flowing and immutable source of wellbeing that will carry us through any turmoil we encounter and any crises we face … one that promises us a script with a happy ending.

I think there is.  Am I right?

Well, here’s the thing and the key takeaway from this essay.  The objective “truth” of that statement doesn’t matter … if there even is such a thing.

I benefit from this belief.  And no one benefits from believing things are NOT all right, whether that be in their personal lives or the world at large.  That’s anxiety producing and depressing.  It doesn’t mean you ignore problems.  It means you do what you can to improve things, no matter how daunting the task seems, while holding faithfully to the belief that things will work out.

As a postscript … I’ve been thoroughly tested this week.  I’ve had the flu, my assistant announced she was leaving, and we’ve had some challenges with renters staying at our place in Mexico.  All this with an over-packed schedule.  I woke up in the middle of the night worried and stressed, wondering how I’m going to get everything I have to do done with no administrative help.

What made me feel better were Abraham Hicks’ words.  So much so that I could fall back asleep.

Sometimes, it feels like too much to take.  But that’s just the stress of the here and now.  I know “this too shall pass.”

What’s lasting … what you can count on … is that there’s a positive force behind all you see and experience, one that’s behind you and looking out for you all along the way.

Trust it … and feel better.




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Meet Denise: Denise Hedges is a Business Development Coach and Speaker Coach for small business owners who want to be more comfortable, confident, and successful with their sales and marketing efforts. She specializes in helping them use speaking as a way to dramatically improve their results!